RELATIONSHIPS (Old Blog)

“What’s the purpose of having a relationship with someone if you don’t see him/her as the one that you’ll marry.”
–NINO MUHLACH

This line is quite weird coz who’d expect Nino Muhlach to say such a thing! He’s been notoriously linked with the word philander or having so many girls. I just remember this line that really made a mark coz I saw Nino Muhlach I think 4 years ago on a pre-noon daily talk show as a guest and he delivered this spectacular line.

His point is clear and it should definitely be clear for those who are in a relationship or planning to enter into one. What’s the use of being with that person if you don’t see a long-term relationship? If it’s just a happy-go-lucky decision, then you’d better think twice. Regret strikes harder when it takes such a long time to correct. I mean, if there’s still a chance to think it through and get it over with, then take that chance! If you are still in a state of indecision, think about and be sure of your decision.
Some enter into relationships just to run away from past troubles or past indifferences with someone who’d been special to them. They end up having hasty decisions and forget to think about the whole situation. They tend to enter another relationship just to forget about the past. But is that really the solution to move on? Is that the correct decision to forego with things? (Ehem! Ehem! Ehem!)

I know nothing if not a few about relationships, but all I can attest to is that entering into one or having one is as serious as being circumcised. If you don’t consider a serious relationship then it is bound for irresponsibility, insincerity and infidelity. It takes two to tango as they say, both of you work on the relationship not just one, because if only one carries it, then that’s not called a relationship.

Here’s one tip, do you know the lines that the priest recites during the sacrament of marriage?
“Do you take this man/woman…through thick and thin…for richer or for poorer.”
(I don’t remember it all but I hope you get the point.)

Before you enter into a relationship or before you move on to the next step,
How about you try to make something of your own, like:
Do you take this man/woman…

Even if he/she snores a lot every night?

Even if he/she doesn’t really sweep you off your feet?

Even if he/she is not the ideal man/woman for you?

Even if he/she has that attitude that you don’t like?

Even if he/she has been a notorious liar or cheater?

Even if he/she is not the guy/girl that really made you feel very loved?

Think about it! These simple questions could even decide your fate. Make your own questions. Questions that really fits you. There’s nothing to lose but everything to gain. Just think about it.

And for those who are already in a relationship…

Do you see that guy/girl still very much in love with you even after 30 years?

Do you see that guy/girl responsible enough to sustain your relationship?

Do you envision that guy/girl loyal to you through the years?

Do you picture yourself with that guy/girl having your own family?

Do you envision that guy/girl STAYING beside you through whatever problem and NOT LEAVING you WITH NO REASON?

Do you picture yourself MARRYING that guy/girl in the future?

If you answered even a single “NO” or “I’m not sure.” Then you should think about your relationship. Perhaps “the RIGHT ONE” is waiting for you to realize that he/she is still out there. Maybe he/she wakes up every morning, down and depressed due to the fact that “you” are in someone else’s arms, but still hoping that “you” are happy.

“You know what it's like getting up every morning? Feeling hopeless,
feeling like the love of your life is waking up with the wrong man. But, at the same time hoping that she still finds happiness, even if it's never going to be with you.”
-ALBERT (Hitch)